For most of us, emotions are reactionary. We see or hear something and we automatically have an emotion. From there, we can do two things: We can either react rashly and harshly, or we can calmly explain ourselves at the appropriate time and place. If someone does something to hurt me, I can choose to hurt them back or I can have a calm conversation with them. If I am feeling depressed, I can interalize it and fake that I am happy, or I can share my burden with a friend! Same emotion, two different responses. One healthy, one unhealthy. It’s never the emotion that is wrong, it’s the way that you communicate it.
I’ve recently been talking with multiple people who have said they are “embarrassed” or “ashamed” of their emotions. Maybe they are offended, having doubts, hurt or even depressed. Some people think the right way to handle these emotions is to put on a fake smile and act like nothing is wrong. After all, who wants to be a debbie downer?
This is so backwards! We are a family in Christ. Brothers, sisters, dads, moms, grandparents and some play the role of crazy cousins. We should feel comfortable to go through tough times, knowing that the people around us will want to offer their help and support. We are called to share one another’s burdens. In 2 Corinthians 1, Paul describes God as the, “Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles,” so that we can “comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.” Communication and sharing one another’s burdens is incredibly healthy, which is exactly why the enemy will try to stop it.
What about you? Would you rather interalize a problem or share it with a friend so that they can help you? Have you ever been embarrassed or ashamed of feeling a certain way? For me, and probably most of us, the main thing stopping us is pride. That is where my previous post comes into play: we can’t do this life on our own. We need God’s help, whether if it is directly or if it is through His people. End of story.
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